“The difference between school and life? In school, you're taught a lesson and then given a test. In life, you're given a test that teaches you a lesson.”
― Tom Bodett
Such big wisdom in this quote. I love the undeniable truth that lies within it.
Recently, I saw someone post how much they dislike when people say, “It must have happened for a reason.” Yet, I believe that life does tests us and everything has a reason for showing up in our lives. It is not that fate has a pre-written plot and we are subject to a pre-destined outcome. No. It is more that every choice we make, defines what comes next. Over the last year I have had recurring situations with a variety of difficult people showing up in my life; some toxic, some just annoying. Regardless of the degree of challenge these relationships have brought with them, they are all testing me. They all bring an obligation to examine what I can change about myself in how I deal with them. It doesn’t mean that I let everyone around me change me; however, it does impose an examination of what I can change, or should change, in order to better navigate the relationship. Or, if you prefer, what I am willing to change or adapt in that moment for the greater good. The outcome of every decision I make in these dynamic moments has a impact on what happens next. I have to examine my motivation; my deep rooted motivation may be trying to elude me. I have found that the various dynamics forced me to examine all of who I am and what is important. At home and at work, we have to learn to choose our battles. I ties in to our adaptability, our ability to see what is really important right now, our ability to learn from every situation. It speaks to me about what kind of leader I am in the world that exists outside of myself but also inside myself, inside my life. Letting go of our ego based reasoning is essential. Letting go of being right in order to do what is right is a core lesson that takes a lot to master. To be in denial about life’s tests and only see them as a burden does not help us. It only feeds fear, pain and sorrow. I don’t want to live in fear, pain and sorrow. I want to live in expansion and happiness.
I believe that the purpose of our existence here on earth is to learn, grow and evolve. And so, inconvenient or not, that is the true meaning of life.
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