What a wonderful phrase. Certainly the more I think about it, the more truth I find in it.
The weather is a metaphor for life. In my own experience, something changes in a relationship once you choose to be on the same team. First of all if your goal is to move the team forward, rather than improve your own personal standing, your approach to everything changes. In music each band member has to be on the same team. Playing in a different key or time signature is not only unthinkable it is disastrous. You might as well be playing an entirely different tune! In order to Wow your audience, and yourselves, there are things that need to happen. First you need to be on the same page, literally. You need to listen. Then you need to understand what it is that your are hearing. I also feel the need to disconnect from myself in order to be fully connected with the musical process. The music is part of the team too. If I don’t recognize that, I am putting myself over the music. The outcome changes. Relationships are the same. If an individual is constantly upstaging the relationship, problems are on the horizon. The relationship, in order to survive, has to be put first. We don’t sacrifice ourselves for our relationship but we do need to consider the relationship in our decisions and actions. “Is my position serving the relationship or is it serving me.”
I have learned to become an observer I see situations differently. If something bothers me or upsets me, I try to understand what I am feeling and why I am feeling it. I examine my reaction and I learn. Because every situation can be an opportunity to build a better relationship, it becomes another kind of good weather.
Namaste!
Bianca
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Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.