21 Habits of Happy People
9. Forgive - “Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.”
It is true that in forgiveness, like love, we must begin with ourselves. We can not offer to others what we can not give to ourselves. Those feelings of hurt and betrayal are hard to overcome. Sometimes they are tricky too. We think we’re over all that but we’re not. How do we know?
Like most people, I had to learn to forgive. It was easy to blame others for my unhappiness and carry the grudge that justified my position, be it victim or anything else. The truth (yup there is that one thing that keeps me on the straight and narrow) is that there is never a situation where we have not enabled or created whatever it is we are in. Then we try to convince ourselves we are the innocent victims. Let’s understand each other, there are exceptions, but a lot of the drama that is in our lives can be avoided and we could let go of it a lot sooner than we do. If you have a old scar that you can not think of without feeling bad, you are not over it. Why is forgiveness important anyway? For me forgiveness is not only a way to find inner peace but it is a way to freeing ourselves from baggage. Baggage that weighs us down year after year. I carried a bunch of hurt from a former relationship. Even though I was in a new happy relationship, I just couldn’t seem to shake it. One day I was reading a wonderful children’s book by Neal Donald Walsh called “The Little Soul And The Sun.” I understood that this person had come into my life to teach me many things and I let go.
All suffering is evolution. If we don’t evolve from life’s challenges we just suffer from them. In order to forgive yourself, see the truth of your past, understand that we are all here to learn, look upon all who have come into your life with love and let the forgiveness begin.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
9. Forgive - “Holding a grudge will hurt no one but you. Forgive others for your own peace of mind. When you make a mistake – own up to it – learn from it – and FORGIVE yourself.”
It is true that in forgiveness, like love, we must begin with ourselves. We can not offer to others what we can not give to ourselves. Those feelings of hurt and betrayal are hard to overcome. Sometimes they are tricky too. We think we’re over all that but we’re not. How do we know?
Like most people, I had to learn to forgive. It was easy to blame others for my unhappiness and carry the grudge that justified my position, be it victim or anything else. The truth (yup there is that one thing that keeps me on the straight and narrow) is that there is never a situation where we have not enabled or created whatever it is we are in. Then we try to convince ourselves we are the innocent victims. Let’s understand each other, there are exceptions, but a lot of the drama that is in our lives can be avoided and we could let go of it a lot sooner than we do. If you have a old scar that you can not think of without feeling bad, you are not over it. Why is forgiveness important anyway? For me forgiveness is not only a way to find inner peace but it is a way to freeing ourselves from baggage. Baggage that weighs us down year after year. I carried a bunch of hurt from a former relationship. Even though I was in a new happy relationship, I just couldn’t seem to shake it. One day I was reading a wonderful children’s book by Neal Donald Walsh called “The Little Soul And The Sun.” I understood that this person had come into my life to teach me many things and I let go.
All suffering is evolution. If we don’t evolve from life’s challenges we just suffer from them. In order to forgive yourself, see the truth of your past, understand that we are all here to learn, look upon all who have come into your life with love and let the forgiveness begin.
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
