15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy*
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
One thing almost all my students come equipped with is a critical voice. I would even say that the louder the critical voice, the more talented they are. Would this indicate that self-criticism serves a purpose?
Balance is the key to any internal dynamic. Whether we are talking ego, control or critical self-talk, we need to be able to determine when it serves us and when it defeats us. It may be a fine line, just as the line between air and water on a pool’s surface, but there is no mistaking one for the other once you learn to recognize them. If your critical voice motivates you to try harder, it is serving you. It encourages you to get the best from yourself and you feel good about it. If you are pushing yourself or beating yourself up because you feel bad about a certain result that is different. You will notice the words you use and the patterns you take on. May I suggest two things? First change your feeling. Just choose to change it right now because you can. Then, as if on the outside of you, observe where it is coming from. Find out why it is there. Maybe you heard so much of it growing up that it is woven into the fabric of that cozy blanket you wrap yourself up in.
Luckily cozy blankets come in many shapes, sizes, colors and textures. Some have ribbons. Some have bows. No matter what it is, it started with a thought. Go ahead and re-design your critical voice to serve the person you are today. Then enjoy your new blankie and live your life to the fullest ;)
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
4. Give up your self-defeating self-talk.
One thing almost all my students come equipped with is a critical voice. I would even say that the louder the critical voice, the more talented they are. Would this indicate that self-criticism serves a purpose?
Balance is the key to any internal dynamic. Whether we are talking ego, control or critical self-talk, we need to be able to determine when it serves us and when it defeats us. It may be a fine line, just as the line between air and water on a pool’s surface, but there is no mistaking one for the other once you learn to recognize them. If your critical voice motivates you to try harder, it is serving you. It encourages you to get the best from yourself and you feel good about it. If you are pushing yourself or beating yourself up because you feel bad about a certain result that is different. You will notice the words you use and the patterns you take on. May I suggest two things? First change your feeling. Just choose to change it right now because you can. Then, as if on the outside of you, observe where it is coming from. Find out why it is there. Maybe you heard so much of it growing up that it is woven into the fabric of that cozy blanket you wrap yourself up in.
Luckily cozy blankets come in many shapes, sizes, colors and textures. Some have ribbons. Some have bows. No matter what it is, it started with a thought. Go ahead and re-design your critical voice to serve the person you are today. Then enjoy your new blankie and live your life to the fullest ;)
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
