15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy*
10. Give up labels.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” - Wayne Dyer
I once had a room-mate who was quite dismissive. When someone would speak about something that had not made its way on to her radar she would loudly and dramatically exclaim, “Well I’ve never heard of that!” (or it or him or her) It always seemed odd to me that she was being so arrogant about her ignorance.
A label is like a box. In our society we feel this need to live in the comfort of a box. There, in that comfort zone, we look for things that identify us to each other; that say, “I am like you.” or “I am good because I have the right job and wear the right clothes and drive the right car” and “I have exquisite taste because I have this.” I have no problem with fashion or nice things or cars. I love when a piece of clothing allows me to express a part of who I am. It is art after all. It only becomes a problem when it replaces who we are. When we buy into an idea of what we need to be or should be in order to be acceptable. Then it gets perverse when we begin to think that if you are not like me then there is something wrong with you and you don’t belong in my world. If I don’t have this or that there is something missing or wrong with me. When we start to put labels on people around us, and ourselves, we are hiding from ourselves. We are hiding from the truth of who we are. We are masking authenticity as if who we are isn’t enough. How can we discover all that is wondrous in the world if we fear everything that is different and new? How can we discover all this is wondrous about ourselves if we jump into a box, close the lid and stick a big label it? No need to look into that box. We know what is in there.
When I travel anywhere I want to get to know the people where I am: where they are from; what their life is like; how they grew up. Anything. I love to eat local food and get a sense of place. I love to learn and I love an authentic human experience.
Having an authentic human experience is what I live for everyday. I have found that I can discover new things about people I have known for a day or a decade. I apply that to my process of self discovery too. No more labels and no more judgement. What is left? The possibilities are ripe; waiting for me to discover another wonder. I’ll keep you posted. I promise ;)
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
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10. Give up labels.
“The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” - Wayne Dyer
I once had a room-mate who was quite dismissive. When someone would speak about something that had not made its way on to her radar she would loudly and dramatically exclaim, “Well I’ve never heard of that!” (or it or him or her) It always seemed odd to me that she was being so arrogant about her ignorance.
A label is like a box. In our society we feel this need to live in the comfort of a box. There, in that comfort zone, we look for things that identify us to each other; that say, “I am like you.” or “I am good because I have the right job and wear the right clothes and drive the right car” and “I have exquisite taste because I have this.” I have no problem with fashion or nice things or cars. I love when a piece of clothing allows me to express a part of who I am. It is art after all. It only becomes a problem when it replaces who we are. When we buy into an idea of what we need to be or should be in order to be acceptable. Then it gets perverse when we begin to think that if you are not like me then there is something wrong with you and you don’t belong in my world. If I don’t have this or that there is something missing or wrong with me. When we start to put labels on people around us, and ourselves, we are hiding from ourselves. We are hiding from the truth of who we are. We are masking authenticity as if who we are isn’t enough. How can we discover all that is wondrous in the world if we fear everything that is different and new? How can we discover all this is wondrous about ourselves if we jump into a box, close the lid and stick a big label it? No need to look into that box. We know what is in there.
When I travel anywhere I want to get to know the people where I am: where they are from; what their life is like; how they grew up. Anything. I love to eat local food and get a sense of place. I love to learn and I love an authentic human experience.
Having an authentic human experience is what I live for everyday. I have found that I can discover new things about people I have known for a day or a decade. I apply that to my process of self discovery too. No more labels and no more judgement. What is left? The possibilities are ripe; waiting for me to discover another wonder. I’ll keep you posted. I promise ;)
Namaste!
Bianca
This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.
Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.
*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.
Join the Bianca Basso Group https://www.facebook.com/groups/265903810099809/
