2. Give up your need for control.

15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy*

2. Give up your need for control.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

I could cite examples of people who tried in vain to control all the aspects of their lives. They did their best to ensure everything would work out just right. Try as they did to plan against every eventuality every one of them ran into a glitch sooner or later.

Today as I waited to have new tires put on my car, I was speaking to a woman in a wheel chair. First I asked her about the tires on her chair. Then I asked her how long she had been in a wheel chair. She told me what it was like and then told me her story. Five years ago she was hit by a drunk driver. After the accident she started to lose feeling in her left leg. Within a fairly short period of time her leg became dysfunctional and her life has involved a wheelchair ever since. This woman could not control anything of what happened to her. What she did control was her attitude. She was very forthcoming with me. Since had been a nurse prior to her accident, she decided that her situation was not so bad. I detected no bitterness about her situation nor towards the person who was responsible for this major life change.

Control comes from fear. The opposite of control is faith. In my life as a musician, I have been fortunate enough to have ample opportunities to exercise my faith. Had I let my fear control everything it would have consumed me. Life can’t be controlled so surrender to your faith. You may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome.



This personal blog was written by Bianca Pittoors. You may “share” it in its entirety. I respectfully request that you respect it as the intellectual property that it is. Thank you! All photos by Bianca Pittoors unless noted otherwise.

Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music with a vintage flavor, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.

*I found this list on a Facebook post but it did not have the author credited. If someone is aware of its originator please let me know.

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