20. Self Confidence

21 Habits of Happy People

20. Self Confidence - “Don’t try to be someone that you’re not. After all no one likes a phony. Determine who you are in the inside – your own personal likes and dislikes. Be confident in who you are. Do the best you can and don’t second guess yourself.”

Well that’s easy. Right? Right? I mean, I am who I am and you are who you are, so what’s this habit about? Glad you asked because, of course, I have a thought on the matter. :) Sometimes we get so caught up in our character and our drama that we forget who we really are. Maybe we only forget parts of who we are, but not being entirely authentic to ourselves is the trap.

I remember being in an entrepreneur session (yes musicians are entrepreneurs, don’t you know) and we were asked to describe how we saw ourselves and how we thought people perceived us. Then the other participants opened the discussion to reveal their impressions of each participant. One person had a completely different impression of herself than what the group unanimously experienced of her. This was so telling. Imagine that you are walking around in life unaware of the messages you are putting out there and wondering why the world is responding to you the way they are. She was in an illusion of herself to herself. I believe that confidence means being aware of ourselves in every way. Not being perfect, but being ok with the aspects of who we are. Successful people don’t try to be experts at everything. They associate themselves with the experts they need and don’t feel less confident for it.

Self confidence is also self-acceptance. I tell all my students that it is far more important to be authentic than it is to be perfect. In life who do you love: the meat robot; the plastic superficial one? No. We really love the people who are real. Be yourself because who you are is enough.

Namaste!

Bianca


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Bianca Pittoors & Marc Langis are Bianca Basso. Creators of original music, they are distinctive in their contemporary style.



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