I opened a can of worms the other day. I wanted to write more on the subject of integrity without drama, compassion and being kind to the unkind. You see, after I write a blog they kind of roll around in my head for a time. Of course the incident that fuelled the blog did too. It all gets interwoven with other situations and I start to see all these links everywhere.
One of my favorite things to do is an anonymous gesture of kindness. I find the anonymousness to be a very important part of the growth process. Of course it has happened that someone has taken credit for my gesture, before my very eyes even, but that is also a lesson in letting go; letting go for the ego. The heart wishes to offer love. The ego needs to get recognition. Compassion feeds our heart; drama validates the ego. So where does integrity come in? For me it has it’s place in balance. The respect I have for myself means I would never compromise myself for another or allow another to compromise me. The respect I have for others means I would never expect them to compromise themselves for me. To me integrity is being able to value our human relations. When we are victims of a relationship or make victims of those we are in a relationship with, there is no doubt integrity is no where to be found. What happens to us when we allow that dynamic to take place? We lose our integrity and an unravelling starts to take place.
It is funny that being factual and unemotional is also a very important part in compassion and integrity. Being emotional is drama and what we truly seek is an ability to care. Care enough to make a gesture of kindness for the sake of kindness. As Oprah says, real integrity is doing the right thing because it is the right thing.
Namaste!
Bianca
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