― Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free
This sounds like a very good New Year’s resolution. In my pursuit of fully being in the moment, I thought this one really deserved attention.
So many of us are trying to create our lives with our thoughts and our feelings and all those other bits and pieces our modern day gurus keep telling us. Yet, for me anyway, there is always a bit missing here, and a frustration that bounces back there and things change but things don’t. How many people do you know who always end up back in the same place, same relationship same career dynamic. And the list can go on and on. I am one of them. Frustrates me. I wonder why I can’t get beyond it. Then I read that quote up top. Ah yes those sneaky control issues disguised as ambition or focus. They do keep us from clearly seeing that in order to create the life we want, we have to let go of the life we don’t want and more importantly all those things we can not change. Ever. No matter how much we try to do the right thing, or be nice to people because we don’t want other’s unkindness to change us. The truth is it changes us in a not so good way. So why not make a resolution right now. Change your mind about what your options are. Look for what you can change. Take a long hard look at what you can’t change and then change how you feel about that and change how it affects you. I suspect we may all start to feel like there is a shift in control; not in the control freak kind of way but in the “I’m in control” confident way.
A confident person doesn’t have to control others. They are in control of themselves, their own lives, the decisions they take and the commitments they make. A person connected to their power is always aware that even if life is ever changing some things are not theirs to change. Letting go of what we can’t change is the first step towards incredible change. Who’s with me?
Namaste!
Bianca
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